Women seem like a bit of an enigma to men, and have been complaining about this for as long as we can remember. Figuring out what is going on in a girl’s mind is easier when a women gives you the facts. Here are some tips from a woman on how you can turn an awkward first date with the woman of your dreams into the relationship you’ve always wanted.
Don’t drink too much. Although you may be terrified and shaking like a leaf, don’t over-rely on liquor to soothe your frazzled nerves. Take my word for it, it’s not worth the risk appearing drunk and out of control. Be better boyfriend material and don’t overindulge. If your date becomes your girlfriend, there will be plenty of opportunities for both of you to let your hair down in the future. Otherwise, you may scare her off if you knock back too many shots before saying hello or while having dinner.
Never ask to go to her place after a first date – You may be invited, that doesn’t necessarily mean we want you to sty the night. Giving her an affectionate kiss at her doorstep is sufficient to indicate you are interested in her. Don’t take advantage of her if she’s a bit tipsy. The next morning after she may be angry that you did.
Don’t over-use social media. If you want to let your friends know how much you enjoyed your date with her, it may be better to hold off rather than splay your news publicly. She will be checking out your Facebook profile, so this is the time for you to edit and remove embarrassing and out date old photos you’ve uploaded from past relationships. Do you really want her to know how much fun you had with an ex, or how much weight you want to lose this year? She doesn’t need to know those things, so retain a bit of mystery.
Pay attention to how she introduces you. Once we’ve come to the conclusion that we’re dating the woman we want, we’ll start getting a bit territorial about her. Men find themselves calling women his girlfriend, dear, honey, or even his other half. She may be put off at the fast advance the relationship is taking, so you may have to back off.
Don’t call her every day. Staying in touch is good, but take my word for it, too much contact makes you look weak and insecure. Back off a little and don’t call constantly to “just check in.” If you overdo it, she’ll feel smothered and will wish you gone within a week. So, no matter how much you want to call, resist the urge. She’ll get the message that you have a life that doesn’t revolve around her, and she’ll probably grow worried and want you more.
Get a life, dude. Don’t revolve your life around her and do you own thing. Men who have interests of their own inspire a woman’s affections even more. Have your own friends, visit your family, go out for drinks after work with colleagues and just have an existence separate from hers. After a while, you will start doing many of these things together, but in the short-term don’t meet up excessively. She needs her own space and really appreciate you if you give it to her.
These tips you should help you start feeling a little more confident about dating. Always remember that not all girls are the same, and you may have a vastly different experience, depending on whom you date. A bad relationship you had in the past is over and done with, and should stay in the past. Give her a chance to prove that not all women are the same.