We expect honesty when researching which restaurants to eat at or people we hire to work for us. When it comes to dating, it always seem we have to take our chances when there are a lot of shady people out there.
Here are some indications that should pay attention to so that your chances of having a bad experience are lessened.
The best way to tell if she’s not totally honest is to listen to your gut. If something feels off, it probably is. Don’t take a chance, and end the relationship before you get in too deeply.
Below are a few things you should pay attention to build your perception skills faster:
Her picture should be clear and not far away away in the distance, or only from the shoulders-up. If you don’t see the a picture, ask for another. You are not entitled to pictures of her, but you’re also not obligated to date her.
Take notice of the number of jobs did she claims to have had, how many ex-husbands she had, etc. Some people do have complicated lives, but if her stories are all over the place, a lot of is probably just untrue. Avoid people who reinvent themselves for every occasion.
Meet her as soon as possible, and when you do so, it should be in the daytime in a public place. Recommended meeting places would be a coffee shop or a park. Under no circumstances should you meet up for the first time at your house or hers at night. If you’re meeting up at night, meet at a bar or restaurant with lots of people around. You will both feel safer, and feeling safe is conducive to being relaxed and open.
The road to a good relationship is honesty, so do so by being being fully honest in your own dating profile. No need to tell every little detail, just don’t fudge information, and don’t leave out anything that’s important, like the fact you have a child.
If she tends to disappear for long periods of time without saying why, she may be lying or hiding something. Too many family emergencies are just not believable. If she has a pattern of being highly responsive to you on certain, limited days of the week, then she disappears completely the rest of the time, you may have an issue. Take it up with her and find out what she’s not telling you.
You’d be amazed by what you can find out about people by checking them out on the Internet. Running a simple Google search may actually reveal whole articles about the person you’re dating.
Also see what they’re like on social media and put the pieces together as a personal profile. You can check out LinkedIn and see what it says about her career-wise. There’s a scary the amount of public information out there, and this can benefit you.